How to Write a Heartfelt Obituary
November 6, 2025
Because you don’t need the perfect words—just the honest ones.
Writing an obituary can feel overwhelming. You want to honor your loved one, share who they were, and somehow fit a lifetime of memories into just a few paragraphs. It doesn’t need to be perfect. What matters most is sincerity.
Below is a gentle guide to help you begin.
Start With the Basics
Begin with the key details that introduce your loved one:
- Full name
- Age
- Date of passing
- Where they lived
- Immediate family members
Example: Maria Santos, 78, of Quezon City, passed away peacefully on September 12, 2025. She is survived by her children Anna, Carlo, and Ben, and six grandchildren who brought her great joy.
These simple details set the foundation before you share their story.
Share the Heart of Their Story
This is where their personality shines. Ask yourself:
- What made them happy?
- What were they known for?
- How did they make others feel?
Describe them in a way that someone who never met them could understand their warmth, humor, or strength.
For example: “She had a laugh that filled every room and a kindness that made everyone feel at home.”
Include Highlights and Milestones
This can be as simple or detailed as you’d like. Consider:
- Career or passions
- Hobbies or interests
- Traditions or routines that were uniquely theirs
- Community involvement or causes they cared about
Speak From the Heart
There are no “right words.” Write as if you are talking to a friend who loved them too. Let your voice be natural and warm.
Closing With Love
Obituaries often end with:
- Funeral or memorial details
- A thank you to those who supported the family
- A short message of remembrance
Example: “We will miss her every day, but her love lives on in the memories we keep and the stories we share.”
When you’re done, read it out loud. If it makes you smile, or cry, or simply feel close to them — you’ve written a beautiful obituary.
